The difference between having a wonderful travel experience and a terrifying, horrible one is attitude. It’s the old thing of seeing the glass half full vs half empty. And remarkably, the outcome of a lot of encounters lies in your attitude.
Markus Wade finally arrived at our bike shop in Fish Hoek. I’d responded to his email and then a few weeks later he casually rolled up at our door. His bike was clearly his home and his best friend. He had a mound of luggage strapped on the back, a worn out sheep skin tied on this saddle and his boxes were dented and covered with stickers from all the places he’d travelled through. He’d also stuck on various things like keys, bullets, rocks and even a turtle shell. I started to go through all the curious items and each of them unfolded a story of the people who had given them to him. He spoke with fondness and wonder of all the people and their kindness, their intrigue with having met him and their wishing to be remembered on his travels.
Markus is now off again on more explorations in South Africa but I miss his daily visits to the shop. And this made me realise that the key to having a wonderful travel experience is all in attitude. It is about being open to meeting people and even though you have almost nothing but the bare essentials, sharing your stories and good nature is what people really want from you. In exchange, they share their country, culture and kindness.
I’ve also met people who fear the places they travel through. They see every person on the road as a potential threat and avoid getting involved. They complain of bribes, theft, fights and come to hate the whole experience. Sadly there are so many of this kind of traveller about and quite honestly, they are missing the point and beauty of being out there.
I am one of those happy travellers who have nothing but serendipity to report on. I’ve pack-packed, package holidayed, weekend-breaked, gap-yeared and ridden my bike across Africa. I consider myself to be a travelling soul with some great experiences – so here are some tips on how to handle travel and get the best out of the people you meet.
Smile
Do you remember the song in the King and I that says “I always whistle a happy tune so that nobody knows I’m afraid”? You could whistle but that might irritate so you should simply smile. A smile is a good way of showing your attitude up front and hopefully will hide any fears you have. I remember crossing the border into Bulgaria where bribes were standard. The car in front of me was clearly having problems and the passengers were clearly getting all hot and bothered. When my turn came to face the border patrol I took my helmet off, got off my bike and approached the surely face as if he were my old friend. “Hello!” I smiled. His stoney face broke into a smile. I had to ask all kinds of stupid questions about insurance and road tax and by the time I left he saluted me off and sang Queen’s song “I like to ride my bicycle” out loud as my bike puttered off.
Patience
The guys who work at the border are doing jobs. They work certain hours and I don’t. I might really want to get through the border as quickly as I can but there really is no reason to rush things if I can use time to my advantage. For instance, there have been a few officials on my travels who clearly would have done their job a lot faster if I paid “extra” to motivate them. I’ve taken my maps out, read my travel guide and almost had a full-on picnic at the counter. I know of guys getting their cooker out and even planning to put up a tent. I think the thought of having you there all day is too much and amazingly the paperwork gets done. 
Diplomacy
When I was in Sudan, the two Swedes we were travelling with made the error calling an official corrupt. The Swede’s English was good but not that good and the official’s English was good enough to take massive offence to the accusation. They narrowly escaped, running out of the building yelling to us to “Go! Go! Go!” We didn’t question, just jumped onto our bikes and started riding out of town as fast as possible, not stopping at any of the police blocks. Sudan is the kind of place I didn’t want to get stuck in some prison cell for a minor offensive use of language.
My travel partner Paul was the master of diplomacy. Once in Poland we were being roughed up by some tram official that we both suspected was a scam. While I started a massive verbal onslaught of manners and pointing out how unfair this all was using a bit of foul language to make my point, Paul took out his note book and pen. He calmly asked for the man’s name and details as he would first verify the legitimacy of the encounter first. Just like that, the man turned around and walked off. We were left by ourselves wondering what had happened – and then hurried off to get lost in a crowd.
Another time at a border we were being asked for a lot of money by an official. Paul very politely explained that perhaps he hadn’t explained the situation and in his proper British way gave our story again of how we had already crossed the border and didn’t pay this fee then so it was a misunderstanding after all. In no time we were off with handshakes and stamps in our passports not having paid any extra.
When in these situations, be polite and wise with words. Negotiate with the greatest of respect to the person involved giving them the option to be the bigger person and solve your problem. That way you get to go and they get to be helpful.
Entertain
I know it is tough to be a socialite when you have just spent eight hours in the saddle traversing tricky roads and now you are in need of a shower and an ice cold beer while watching the sunset on you own. But sometimes you need to entertain the masses. Especially when travelling in places that people don’t see that many big adventure bikes with scruffy bikers and all our curious gear. We humoured many children with our cameras, gps and various technological bits and pieces. Nothing was stolen. There were many times, especially in Ethiopia, when just making a cup of tea on our tiny hi-tech cooker drew a large crowd. Fixing a bike can also draw an entire village out to sit there and watch in absolute fascination. This is the beauty of travel. We are travelling to see them but they wish to see us just as much. Let’s face it, adventure travellers are a curious bunch of individuals. Locals pick up on this fact. Also, by demonstrating and interacting it is less likely to have things stolen because you are giving them what they want – the thrill of seeing you in action and sharing your time and making friends.
Be Grateful
In Turkey we were treated like royalty. This is because the Arab culture believes that a traveller is a gift from God. On a regular basis complete strangers bought us food and helped us with our bikes. They would accept no money and weren’t hoping to cash in on a free holiday one day. In Sudan people were very hesitant to communicate with foreigners because it would mean a meeting with the police for them. But even so, when we camped in the evenings inevitably a child would come over with a bowl of dates and some fresh water. In return we were grateful. We appreciated their kindness and made sure we expressed gratitude and didn’t abuse the generosity.
Some of the poorest people in the world are the most generous. I think that any traveller will agree with this truth. It is a humbling experience. We should feel gratitude for their generosity and for all the luxury and money we have that enables us to travel.
Respect
I know it isn’t easy to fit in to a culture when it doesn’t make sense and possibly you fundamentally disagree with certain things. For instance, as a woman and a biker, I often find myself in a situation that I’m pushing the boundary of what is considered to be a woman’s role. Some guys find this difficult to handle. Some guys are outright outraged. When I was in Syria I had to completely disguise myself as a man and avoid being seeing on the bike at all. I hated this! I’m a biker chick and proud of it. But at the end of the day, I was in their country and whether or not I liked it, the fact remained that I was in their country. I had to show respect.
Follow your Gut
When we travel we will meet some bad people who know we are unsuspecting, potential victims. We find ourselves in places that are dangerous. No travel guide can prevent these situations from arising. But you can trust your gut. If you aren’t sure or don’t feel at ease about something, leave as swiftly as you can. I would avoid making a scene and simply try to smile, say thank you if you must and leave. I’ve often thought that one of the reasons my travels have been safe and happy is because I listen to my gut. This helps to avoid danger. It also helps me to recognise good people and places.
Serendipity
Serendipity has been voted one of the top ten English words hardest to translate. All be it a really hard to get your head around, it is one of those things that a happy traveller will get to appreciate and understand even if they can’t explain it. Serendipity is the effect by which one accidentally stumbles upon something fortunate, especially while looking for something entirely unrelated.
And so whatever it may be that sets you off on a journey; take a great attitude with you. The world is a wonderful, curious place full of adventure and interesting people. Take the time to enjoy the whole experience because travel is a journey of the soul.